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The Official Website of the Beijing 2008 Olympic Games August 8-24, 2008 

In a few hours from now the Beijing 2008 Olympic Games will formally start.

With our country’s small contigent of athlete, we are still hoping that somebody can bring home a gold medal (or any medal). Our government and private sector had contirubuted a whopping 15 Million Pesos as bonus money to whoever can bring home that elusive gold medal from the Olympic Game.

If only they alloted this amount of money for their training we could have more confidence with our athletes performance. Ofcourse they are expected to give everything they got in order to win but guts alone without proper training is not complete. Then there is this news that two of our divers are becoming swell headed and now are hard to descipline. Here is wishing that somebody could bring home medals whatever the color is.

Sorry for not updating this site of mine. I am being sidelined by a painfull left shoulder. Sign of Ageing? I am now under going theraphy.

I hate to type using only one hand so pardon my absence. I’ll be back, promise!!!

Entrecard

A short and very happy Friday! Here is the reason why I failed to make my Entrecard drop that day.

I was downloading yahoo messenger for my Mac book Thursday night. I was also charging the battery so I decided to sleep first, as I estimated that the downloading and charging would take about three hours.

I decided to visit other sites and drop Entrecard next morning.

Yes I wake up exactly as timed to urinate and check my download and the status of charging the battery. I was elated for both jobs were already finished as expected. I decided to install the file but to it won’t install and the Firefox browser is giving me “cannot connect to server” status.

Checking our modem, the lights are not showing meaning no DSL connection. I immediately called the DSL hotline but our landline had no dial tone. I have to use my cell phone to report the matter to both hotlines. Unfortunately, only the DSL hotline personnel are awake at that ungodly hour while I have to wait till 6:00 A.M. to report our busted landline.

Yesterday, Friday July 25, 1:00 P.M, my wife text me that the service crew of our telephone provider informed us that the cable line had been stolen. Five blocks away from our home some wise guys decided to run away with 5 meters of those telephone cable wire. The service was restored at about 4:30 the same afternoon.

That is the reason why I failed to make my drop to those who visited and dropped their cards on my site, Sorry folks!

And as usual, the culprit are not arrested ready to strike again. This had happened a couple of times already.

That’s how effecient our Police enforcer are.

Family picture

When I was young:

I still remember the days when I would buy Parenting books before my first child was born. When I decided to take care of lovebirds, I would also buy books about lovebirds. It has been my way of learning. Books coupled with research and by asking other people’s personal experiences on matter that interest me.

I would buy cassette tapes of nursery rhyme and children stories, encyclopedia and other educational toys for them in preparation for their schooling. I would buy them toys that I myself never have the chance to play when I was a kid. I always wanted to buy for them what I think they would need later on. I decided for them. These last two sentences is my greatest mistake as I realize and I would tell you later.

Those were the Days:

When they were young, I have to spank them when I think it is necessary but I have to explain to them the reason why. When we have a visitor and they are not behaving well, one look at them and they know what I wanted them to do is to be quite. I am strict and disciplinarian as what my Chinese father showed us. I decided what I think is good for my family.

The Awakening:

One time when two of my daughters were already in high school my wife and me had a misunderstanding about decision-making. Right there, like a bubble bursting with anger she told me what she and our children felt. Yes I would ask for their opinion but I never listen to them. My ego was crushed like a castle being flattened after being hit by Intensity 7 quake. I was dumbfounded. But it opened up my mind to the realization that my children are not happy as I expected them to be. My parenting technique is an old fashioned traditional style “where father knows best”.

Now I know:

I think I have evolved and could call myself a thinking Daddy. I have adjusted my style of dealing with my children as I grow older and as they were too. I have learned a lot also from my wife and my kids. I am a disciplinarian but cool daddy as my children would tell me. I act now more as a friend than a daddy I used to be.

Parenting for me is like traveling in a two way street. We must listen and give way to other as much as we wanted to be given way. Like a pedestrian, you have to stop, look and listen before making your final move to cross the street.

As the saying goes “There is no such thing as right or wrong but thinking made it so”. If my style of parenting is good or bad, only time could tell. But for now I enjoy every minute of being a “Cool” daddy.

What’s your style of Parenting?

Please see my earlier post: To My Children

This is my official entry to PPBC 6 hosted by Guardian Angel : What type of Parent are you?

By the way, this carnival has been started by Doc Joey who we can also call The Working Mom.

“Where would blogs be without Entrecard?”

This question would surely raise an eyebrow or uproar to those non-Entrecard believers. I have seen quite a few posts why they remove it from their blog.

But to those who are fanatics and believer this question will surely solicit a lot of positive response and reactions.

More especially now that an improvement was created with their latest partnership with SezWho. This partnership for sure created a lot of excitement and activity in the blogging world.

For me Entrecard created a window for my blog in terms of opportunity to be found by fellow blogger. With the widget installed – it serves as a link for other fellow entrecarder for my site to be discovered by them. Some members eventually become my cyber friends.

As they say in Blogging, content is still the King then Entrecard is the queen.

I don’t know if this post is right, I am just stating my opinion.

May I hear from you guys?

To all Entrecard user this is certain to be a good news.

Got an email from entrecard support group and read graham’s post announcing this partnership. Got totally impress so I joined right away.

“You have registered for Sezwho!, you should have received an email now containing the activation step. Please let us know via Feedback, or in the Support forum if you have trouble.”

This is a about members leaving a valuable comment and getting reward for it.

Here is what he mean “Commenting is the second most important thing for you to do after writing quality posts. Here’s a saying to live by, and you can quote me: “Comment or get out of the Blogosphere” -for it is on other blogs that you plant a first impression and the seeds of a reputation. It is precisely through your comments that you interest others to visit your blog. How do you reach a blogger’s heart and the heart of their audience? Comment on their blog, and do it well.”

For more detailed explanation please visit Graham’s post.

If you’re not yet an Entrecard member now is the time to join.

By the way Graham if you happen to read this I got one problem:

I can’t make the plugin work. And so does My Blogging Experience and Fragileheart. This I learned when I tried to post my concern in our support forum.

Does anyone got a solution?

Edited:

After upgrading to wordpress 2.6 and downloaded the beta 2.1.2 version of SezWho, I was able to finally make it work.

Death comes like a thief in the night. Just like a flick of a finger, alive now - gone tomorrow. This is not about the book written by Francis A. Schaeffer with the same title- “Death in the City”.

This is about how dying is more expensive than living. Death in the City is really expensive.

If you are lucky enough to be brought to an ICU of a hospital in an emergency situation, it would cost you P 20,000.00 per day. Not included were the Professional fees of the Doctors that will attend to you. This I learned last Friday July 4, 2008.

My mother-in-law complained of headache and dizziness last Friday afternoon. After my wife tried to give her a little comfort by giving her white flower and massaging her forehead her blood pressure was checked. It was high so we decided to bring her to the nearest hospital. It took a few more precious minutes when the Doctor told us that we should transfer her to FEU Hospital because they lack the necessary apparatus to be used on her.

By time we arrive in the said hospital my mother-in-law fall asleep and goes into coma. After the entire test has been done to her the Doctor told us the truths that in her condition the chances of survival is less that 50 % even if two operations could be performed. She is now 77 years old. Aneurism is the culprit and there are blood clots in her brain.

All her children working and living abroad were informed of the status of their mother. They accepted the sad fact. They all decided to come home and shifted the effort in the preparation of her demise. To make her death as comfortable as she can be despite all those life saving machine attached to her. Monday afternoon at about 2:45 pm the Doctor declared her as dead.

It is a good thing that 3 years ago a memorial plan was bought as an investment. It only cost P 50,000.00 then but purchasing the same plan now would cost P 100,000.00. We just call their hotline number informing them that we would use the plan we purchased. They did everything professionally that helps lighten up the burden the grieving relatives are suffering at that moment.

A memorial lot was purchased almost 9 years ago for the price of P40, 000.00. The going rate now as I have learned from the internet sites that are selling their lots is from P 250,000.00 to P 350,000.00.

Before my mother-in-law died she always told us that she doesn’t want to face long suffering before dying just like what my father-in-law endured. She got her wish.

This tragic incident of losing a love one created more awareness in our family that preparing for your dying is more practical and economical now than buying or purchasing later when the need arise.

This is a personal experience of having a love one face death in the city.

Please see related post here : July month of my wedding Anniversary

I would like to reserve this post as my 1st entry to THE 5th edition of the Pinoy Parenting Blog Carnival (PPBC). and the topic is about - What would you like your children to be when they grow up, and why? This is being hosted now by Angel of Happy Family Matters. In case you do not know, this carnival was initiated by Doc Joey of The Working Mom and has been hosting the past four editions, and was joined by numerous Pinoy Parents.

What would I want my children to be when they grow up?

This question crops up to every parents mind especially when our children were young and there are signs we are seeing that would tend to go in that direction. My friend’s son is fond of playing with dolls so he is bracing himself for his son to take up Beauty and culture, and own a beauty parlor someday. Funny isn’t it?

My 3 year old nephew has a very strong arm for his age that is why my children often times joke about that we could train him early on as a boxer and we would act as his Manager. He could be another Manny Pacquaio in the making.

Of course every parent would love to see their children become successful in their chosen career. I don’t impose on my children what they should take up in College.

My wife and I are trying our best to talk with them what are their future plans, their favorite subjects or anything that could lead us for better assessment that would lead to their future career.

My 2^nd eldest daughter is now on her 4^th year as a Nursing student while my 3rd child now is on his 3^rdyear of Marine transportation. All of them decided for themselves and are happy and contended about their grades. My youngest son who is on his 3^rd year of high school would love to take up computer related education such as programming but have second thoughts because he is seeing his older sister quite successful in her work as a web designer. My youngest daughter who is in her grade 6 of elementary education wants to finish HRM or to become a President of this country. Wow, a tall order, I should say.

I have known a lot of parents who imposed their will on their children on what course to take up in their College education. Being a good children that they are they obeyed their parent’s wishes only to suffer later on in their life. Some were not able to finish their studies while other opted to shift courses a number of times until they finally find the right study that suit their personality. The end result is a waste of time, money and resources for both parent and child.

Of course having a college education alone is not a guarantee that they would become successful in life because we have seen a lot of school drop outs who become Billionaires. A lot of college graduate who are jobless. Some weren’t able to use their diploma and grab any available job just to earn a living.

All I want for them is to be a responsible, productive God fearing citizen of this country.

What ever come out of my children, I would fully support them in any way I can, all the way.

From my Boss (Source: Unknown)

Adopt some of these tips and live longer

Tips for an Exceptional, Superb & Powerful Life!

1.) Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate antidepressant.

2.) Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock if you have to.

3.) Always pray and make time to exercise.

4.) Spend more time with people over the age of 70,and under the age of 7.

5.) Eat more foods that grow ON trees and plants, And eat less foods that are manufactured IN processing plants.

6.) Drink tea and plenty of water. Eat broccoli, almonds & walnuts.

7.) Try to make at least three people smile each day.

8.) Clear your clutter from your house, car, desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.

9.) Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead, invest your energy in the positive present moment.

10.) Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class ……. but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

11.) Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a layman, And dinner like a beggar.

12.) Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

13.) Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

14.) Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

15.) You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

16.) Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

17.) Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

18.) Ladies - Go on and burn those ’special’ scented candles, use the 600 thread count sheets,

the good china and wear fancy clothes now.

Stop waiting for a special occasion. E v e r y day is special.

19.) No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

20..) Frame every so-called disaster with these words: In five years, will this matter?

21.) Forgive everyone for everything.

22.) What other people think of you is none of your business.

23.) Time heals almost everything. Give time, time!

24.) However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

25.) Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch with them.

26.) Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

27.) Envy is a waste of time.

You already have all you need. God provides, remember?!

28.) The best is yet to come.

29.) No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

30.) Do the right thing without fussing about.

31.) Call your family, son or daughter more often.

32.) Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: ….I am thankful for __________…..And Today I accomplished _________, what ???? Say it again!!

33.) Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.

34.) Enjoy the ride.

Remember that this is not Disney World and you certainly don’t want a fast ride.

You only have one ride through life, so make the most of it and enjoy the ride.

LIVE, LOVE, LAUGH…… LIFE IS A GIFT, that’s why it’s called THE PRESENT ..………………………………… UNWRAP IT!

Have a blessed day.

Yes! Manny Pacquaio wins the WBC lightweight crown in a grand fashion via 9th round Technical knockout of the former champion David Diaz.

Congratulation Manny for giving our country another honor despite a lot of problem that our country is facing now.

But I was not able to fully appreciate the fight.

Why? Here is the reason (In Tagalog).

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Thank you so much!

June 29,2008 7:00 A.M

In a few hours from now the whole citizenry of this country would temporarily stop (even criminals have day off) and drop every thing that they are doing and would be glued to every available means of communication they could have to be able to have an update of this great fight by our country man Manny Pacquaio. For Manny winning this fight would be placing him to a date in history as the only Asian to win 4 weight division and the only Filipino to win in that division where other great fighter before him failed.

Lucky are the people of General Santos for I have learned from Avelmar Manansala of http://www.gensantos .com for they could watch this fight live and for FREE through the kindness of their Congresswoman Honorable Darlene Antonino-Custodio (photo by Jun Pilapil ).

I am hoping for a Manny Pacquaio win but I have my doubts and fear because it seems to me that he lacks the time to properly train for this fight. David Diaz is very determined to win for added fame and fortune.

Lucky are you people who could watch this great fight. Me? Oh, today is just like ordinary day for me. Got to report for work.

Could somebody kind enough to send me a copy of this fight (I am joking Sir Edu Manzano)