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Evelyn, my wife is my childhood sweetheart. We became “on” 9 years before we got married in a simple solemn wedding ceremony at the Sta. Cruz Church chapel. Half of those 9 years were spent quarreling with one another and broke-up 3 times. Our Choir member sang on that “fateful” day. The memorable date was July 10, 1984 meaning 23 years of married life. That would give us 32 years of being together.
Before:
The first time she tried at handling the kitchen (after our wedding) produce a disastrous effect. The kettle literally exploded sending it up in the air creating loud thundering sound. The kettle dried up while boiling the water creating a vapor inside. It can never be used again but for other purpose such as watering the plants.

She got mad and hurt when the Chicken “Tinola” that she proudly presented to me can’t be eaten because it was halfway full of oil (chicken fat and too much cooking oil). I could not forget her questioning look why the “Daing na Bangus” she prepared and cook didn’t have a taste (She forgot to add salt). So for us not to starve to death, I do the cooking. We would go to market to every weekend to stock up on our food for the week.
Now:
That was before, now she can whip up Chinese and Filipino dishes with ease. Including spaghetti, Siomai and different soup. Her specialty is Lumping Shanghai and Chopsuey. Oh! Her fried chicken taste and look likes you ordered from Jollibee.

Rewind:

Thinking back in the old days what we have gone through, a lot of trials and hardship especially when the kids started coming, makes me wonder how was I able to manage. The time when I single handedly provide for our everyday life necessity, school tuition fee of children (She have to resigned from her Job because Mae needs her for her Chinese Lessons) filling up bills coupled by long hospitalization of Melvin. Providing them home and paying for the residential lot had given me so much pressure that I had to take other sideline as Real State salesman (As Branch Manager, I was able to sell a few residential lots and House and lot), Tupperware dealer (became a Branch Manager in 1 months time), Life Insurance dealer and Cellular phone dealer (Here I got a lot of commission). Those were the days my friend!

The Challenge:

We nearly broke up and separated for her wrong suspicion that I am womanizing. This is a part of my life worth retelling. My womanizing Boss has a very strict and a guerrilla like wife that I have to cover his tract. Every employee would know they had a quarrel the night before because he would be wearing a shade (to cover his blackened eye) and a Long sleeve Shirt (Scratches from fingernail can be found al over his body. Maybe this is another case of battered husband). Then I find my Boss explaining to my wife what really is happening. He felt sorry for me and made the move by himself.

We patched up things and live happily ever after. The only storm that tried to break our union.

Now, my eldest daughter graduated last year from College and is now working. My second child is taking up Nursing and on her 3^rd year. My 3^rd Child is taking up Marine Transportation and now on his 2^nd year. Another child is on his 2nd year of High school education and my youngest in on her 5^th grade.

Movie Maker:
Marriage had many faces and many form. Some says it is like playing a Russian roulette that you just don’t know when it would end. I would say that getting into the Sanctity of Marriage is like making a Movie. You are the Producer, Lead Actor, Casting Director, Light man, Camera man, Sound Man, Editor, Clapper and Head Writer rolled into one. There is also take two, take three and so on depending on your belief and conviction. God holds the remote control that when HE decides to view it, be sure to give your best shot. Make HIM the center of your Union and you could never go wrong.
A picture-framed gift titled “Ten Rules Of A Happy Marriage” was broken and destroyed 5 years ago. I was able to find a replacement last week, and if you want to know the content of this rules, just give me your email and I will gladly give you a copy as soon as I can.

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