How Do I discipline my kids?
I have a two year old nephew that is so cute and adorable but wait tell he ask or want something and failed to get it, he would throw a tantrum that would surely ruin your day. He would throw at you anything he can get hold of if he is mad at you.
I happened to witness one such incident that made me shake my head in disbelief especially upon seeing my sister -in-law give in to her child’s demand. Maybe, my sister-in-law never realizes at this time that she is spoiling her son.
I believe that the first seven years of a child is important in teaching them the right attitude and discipline. This formative years of their life is essential because they will carry them in their growing up years.
What my children needs I buy for them, but for what they want they have to save or work hard to achieve it.
Of course there are different parenting styles of disciplining our children. What works for me might not work for others.
I can honestly say that I had tried different approaches to all of my 5 children. Each one had a distinct individuality and therefore requires different approach. Most of the times they understood so it means lesser dialogue while there are times that they tend to question my decision. When this happened, I would call a meeting requiring all family members to be present. An open forum would follow after the problem was discussed. I have made it a point never to bring back past mistakes and focused on the lesson learned in an incident. This way, the problem would never happen again.
Of course like all children, there are times when they violated our rules. The penalty depends on the family decision. If it is about violation on their computer playing time, he/ she forfeit their scheduled time or suspended for 1 playing day. Great isn’t it? There are times I have to put my put down.
One time (at home) when I am off from work, my Brother-in-law come to our house reeking of liquor and wanted me to reprimand my children for not cleaning up our house. He told me a lot of things which in my opinion is already intruding to our family life.
I politely told him that when I am home I don’t want to reprimand my children regarding trivial matter because this only happens once a week (unless it is something about our house rules). I want to enjoy their company without any hassle. I don’t react about other people disciplining our children. The only problem is when they try to hurt them, that is another matter and I would not permit that to happen.
In our family, I am the disciplinarian as what I written here: I am a disciplinarian but “cool” Daddy!
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August 31st, 2008 at 7:58 am
I definitely agree with you about the importance of the first seven years, partner.
I cannot imagine handling 5 children as I am going crazy with my 2 kids are “fighting”. Just like now while I am making this comment. lol!
Seriously speaking, spoiling a child is a no-no for me no matter how I love them.
How I wish I can still catch up with my entry.
Thanks!
August 31st, 2008 at 11:21 am
Angel -Hi! That is easy, every time I hear them fighting I would give them a knife each to settle their differences.Funny huh! Seriously speaking, fighting one another makes them closer. hehehe. This post is also rush! You’ll make it in time. I have strong faith in you my friend.
August 31st, 2008 at 7:32 pm
hi,i love your post about discipline and kids.i myself im a a disciplinarian.i just want to raise my kids to be respectful,god fearing ,kind individuals.i get to strict sometimes on my step daughter who is 5 and i realize,she is only 5 years old.there are things she wont fully grasp yet.but it doest mean i will stop,with my other daughter the 10 month old its hard.she gets tantrums but how do you discipline a baby?
September 1st, 2008 at 7:09 am
melody - Hello! I just don’t know if this is true but this works for me. During their infancy, we never left our lights on during the night. the only light open is on our side table wherein the milk and other child stuff is placed.This way they also knew that during night time we are supposed to be asleep.They would only cry when their diaper is wet or they are feeling uncomfortable.Me and my wife talked to them as an adult so if the child throw the things he/she is holding we tap his hand telling them that is bad thing to do.I hope this helps.
September 7th, 2008 at 1:47 am
i couldn’t agree more! kaya nga dapat lahat ng mabuti matutunan nila sa 1st 7 years but parents also have to take note that the 1st 3 years are the most critical.
enjoy the rest of the weekend